The Spell I Cast with My Mother's Wooden Spoon (And Why It Finally Worked)

My grandmother was not a witch.

At least, that's what my mother always said, usually while stirring something with the same wooden spoon Gran had stirred with for forty years. "She was just particular," Mom would explain, adding salt to the pot without measuring. "About ingredients. About timing. About—"

"Intentions?" I'd offer.

Mom would give me a look that said we don't use that word in this house.

But here's the thing about kitchen magic: it doesn't care what you call it.

I inherited that spoon three years ago, after Mom passed. It arrived in a box of "miscellaneous kitchen items" my sister didn't want. Warped handle. Burn mark on the left edge from an incident we never discussed. A faint smell of onion that no amount of washing has ever removed.

For two years, I used it like any spoon. Stirred soups. Scraped pans. Once threatened my teenager with it, which felt appropriately ancestral.

Then last month, on the anniversary of my divorce being finalized, I made risotto.

Not because I wanted risotto. Because I wanted to stand at the stove and stir something for forty-five minutes without anyone asking me what was for dinner. Because I wanted the meditative rhythm of stir, wait, add, stir. Because I was sad and angry and tired of pretending I wasn't.

I didn't cast a spell. I didn't light a candle or invoke anything.

I just stirred. And thought about my grandmother, who made risotto every Sunday for a man who didn't deserve her. About my mother, who never made risotto because it reminded her too much of watching her mother disappear into that marriage, one Sunday at a time. About me, standing at my stove, finally free of my own version of that pattern.

And I cried into the risotto. A lot.

(Don't worry, it's not unsanitary. Salt is salt.)

When it was done, I sat alone at my table, ate the entire pot over two hours, and felt—for the first time in months—like I could actually breathe.

That's when I noticed the spoon. Still sitting in the empty pot, right where I'd left it.

Except the burn mark was gone.

I'm not saying my grief healed my grandmother's spoon. I'm not saying there's some mystical explanation for wood changing appearance after being stirred through emotional carbohydrates.

But I'm not not saying it either.

The spoon sits on my altar now. (Fine, my kitchen windowsill. Same thing.) Next to a bay leaf I never throw away and a salt dish I never let empty. My grandmother's tools, finally being used the way she probably always meant them to be.

My mother would say I'm being dramatic.

My grandmother would just tell me to stir counterclockwise next time.

For releasing. Obviously.